We recently (as in the past 48 hours) found out that our son is a liar. Needless to say we are not happy parents at the moment. Tobei and I have laptops but in the basement we have to desktop computers that the children are allowed to use. Our rules are pretty simple. No computers until after dinner during the week and no computers before breakfast on the weekends. We didn’t think we had anything to worry about. I mean Big Brother is only 7.
Big Brothers school is pretty up there in the tech department. His homework every night consists of 20 minutes of reading and sometimes some math. We make him do math every night anyways as we are strong believers in one needing math in their lives. Both of these activities are done via a program online that his school pays for. Each night when he gets home from school we send him downstairs to do his homework.
For the past 2 weeks every night has been like clockwork. He goes down stairs then comes up about half an hour later asking if 20 minutes if over yet. By the time he is done his homework it is usually time to eat. If dinner is not ready we will allow him to go play on the computer since his homework is done.
Tuesday night Big Brother was doing his homework and Tobei went down to the basement to put on a load of laundry. That is when he found Big Brother playing Sims instead of doing his homework. He was immediately kicked off the computer and sent up to the living room where I was informed of this incident. I asked Big Brother if this is what he had done the night before. He said no. Turns out that was a lie. I then asked if he did homework last week or played games. He said homework. Turns out that was a lie. After checking the computer he had not done his homework for the past 2 weeks.
We were FUMING for 2 reasons. 1) Our son is a liar. Not even by accident since he was coming up asking if 20 minutes was over totally making us believe he was in fact doing his homework. 2) We had trusted him and believed him so we were signing his agenda every night stating he had done his homework. Now we looked like liars since the teacher can check these things from her account.
I decided to write a note in his agenda last night informing the teacher of these recent events. When we picked him up from school today I could not find the note I had left. I asked him if he erased it (yes I was dumb enough to write it in pencil) and he said no. Looking closer I could faintly make out my note. I asked him again “Did you erase my note?” and he quietly nodded. Told me he erased it as he didn’t want his teacher to know. Well sucks to be him. Sitting there in the van I called his teacher and informed her of everything.
We are still fuming. We can not believe that not only is our son a liar but he purposely and knowingly lied for 2 WEEKS! He is now grounded for a week. Let’s hope he learns his lesson. We do not tolerate liars in this house.
Now I need YOUR HELP. What do you do to make groundings no fun? So far we have lots of cleaning and extra homework on the nightly list but could use some more ideas.