When Big Brother was turning one I was super excited to throw him a birthday party. My birthday happens to fall 9 days before Christmas so I always got the short end of the stick. Don’t get me wrong my mom tried to make it special. But between Christmas parties and snow storms not many kids would usually show up. To make up for it my mom started throwing me a half birthday party every summer. Big Brother was born in June so in my eyes, I had a child who would have epic birthday parties where everyone would show up.
This worked for his first birthday. However with Tobei away for work the only people invited was family and we had a BBQ and some cake. His 2nd birthday same deal. For his third birthday, he had 2 friends we invited and some neighbour kids. It was actually a pretty awesome birthday party and if they would all be like that I would be pretty happy.
Then came his first big birthday. You know the one where he is in school and can invite all his school friends. That is exactly what I did. A month before his birthday I sent him to school with the birthday invitations for all his friends. I bought the party supplies, hired a magician and waited for the replies to roll in. Out of 18 kids, we got 4 replies. All were saying they could not come.
What I did not realise was my son’s birthday party was the same weekend as fathers day. Bad planning on mommy part. But I was heartbroken that on the big day only 1 school friend was there and it was one who hadn’t even replied. Side note… People, please RSVP to invites. This party I found it hard to even confirm if the family was showing up. $500 spent on a big day that in my eyes was a huge disappointment and left me sad for my son. Thankfully he didn’t notice.
I decided to give the birthday party thing another go. Little Brother was turning 4. Let’s give it a try. Well, the day of the party I had no RSVPs. Even family members weren’t able to make it. I was done making a big deal with a party for my kids. All the money and build up just to have no one show up. It was that day I swore off birthday parties. It was the best thing to ever happen to our family.
So how do we celebrate their birthday?
We now spend each child’s birthday as a family and only as a family. We let the birthday boy pick an activity. It has ranged from a road trip to Canada’s Wonderland to going as a family to one of our local play places. Guess what. These are the days my kids still talk about. We never heard about their birthday parties after they were over. To each their own by I am much happier now that we have sworn off birthday parties. Spending our time and money making memories as a family is one of the best things we could ever do for our children.
Good -bye birthday parties. We won’t miss you.